Are you suffering from lack of sexual development?

and have not gone through a sexual experimentation phase as most teenagers do, chances are you are.  It sucks and it's wrong but only way to get over it, is to go through it so you come out a whole person and understand yourself sexually.  If you don't understand yourself, no one else will.  

You just have to find out, what you like and what you don't like.

Do it alone or with someone you trust.  Sex shops have a huge array of toys to help you.  Then just start trying to see what feels good for you and what doesn't.  DO NOT engage in any sort of sexual activity that makes you feel bad as you will be revictimizing yourself.  And don't stress!  You'll get there.  Any sort of physical activity - even just a five minute walk daily will help too.    

Science already recognizes men should be jerking off daily so if you are a female, try for at least 3 times a week.  Don't worry if a week goes by and you don't do it.  Just return to it and try it as a medical activity, no different to having a bath or shower.  Sexual release is important for your physical well being and your physical well being affects every aspect of your life.  You will find your Adult Victim/Banana Person symptoms lessen (as listed below) because you will become more physically present to your own body and life rather than being emotionally divorced and focused on others.   Magic right?  Science is like that.       

The Most Common Characteristics of Adult Victims also known as Banana People are being completely unaware they are driven by 6 basic human instincts and this is often displayed in the following way.

1. Chronic self centeredness and unable to recognize other people as individuals with their own life experiences and desires.
2. They try to control the needs of other people’s and meet them all themselves.
3. They have difficulties with self-regulation especially anger and constantly focus/blame others and suffer from emotional displacement/projection.
4. They have problems with project completion or even starting projects.
5. They struggle when it comes to enjoyment and can't have fun or enjoy life.
6. They are extremely self-critical and for this reason extremely critical of others.
7. They immediately think the worse of others and are always defensive.
8. They can't question others behavior and just make up what they are doing in their own mind and act on it.
9. They constantly aim for approval and will go to extreme lengths to control others perceptions of them to get approval.
10. They feel like imposters in their own bodies because they don't know themselves.
11. They have a hard time standing up for themselves, confuse aggression and assertiveness and try to control others through self-sacrifice.
12. They feel no one understands them because they don't understand what being a human being actually is and/or themselves.
13. They confuse love with pity and tend to end up in relationships with people they think they can control easily which often go bad quickly.
14. They are loyal to people they shouldn't be loyal too and in effect become addicted to the chaos of the relationship.
15. They are unable to identify with basic human emotion, behavior, motivates and drives and see themselves as 'above others'.
16. They are unable to identify the natural power exchange in relationships and often abuse their power in relationships without knowing they are doing it.
17. They often see their own children as a burden and ungrateful as their parents did them and have a lot of unresolved resentment/disappointment towards their parents/caregivers either dead or alive.
18. They pursue emotionally unavailable people in an attempt to feel in control and/or isolate themselves from others.
19. They often can only speak very vaguely and are aloof about themselves and their lives espeically sex and money but can tell you everything about others in their lives.
20. They are often not participating in any sexual activity even with themselves.
21. They often ask for too much feedback when making a decision and confuse themselves so much they can't make a decision or they make blind decisions.
22. Prone to emotional outburst which are triggered by situations.  Situations others would normally recognize as stressful so avoid them where possible or make a plan to deal with the stress when it occurs.
23. Have problems planning in advance, learning from the past and often lack forethought and foresight making learning difficult.
24. Often they are stuck in the emotionally destructive pattern they learnt in childhood and have not developed past this infantile state of dependency on others rather than moving to interdependence.
25. They will often use therapeutic terms when focusing on loved ones like they have a professional relationship with the person rather than personal relationship.
26. Most Adult Victims can only play 2 parts in life, that of being abused or being the abuser.  They are unable to recognize it's possible to care for self and others at the same time.
27. They are unable to recognize how society, science, biology and genetics plays a part in their makeup.  In their mind they are ‘the be all to end all’.
28. They can't take feedback about their behavior and react childishly.
29. They often rely on other people to protect them from imagined threats.
30. They talk at you and you can't have a back and forth conversation.  The sharing of information doesn't happen.
31. They choose to resent people who won't pay attention to them, rather than go and get their need for attention met elsewhere.

A lot of Adult Victims abuse chemicals, substances and their bodies or others bodies to deal with the pain - emotional, physical, spiritual and/or imagined - that occurs from living with this mind set which is often motivated by fear of exposure for the fake person they perceive themselves to be which is a perceptional/neurological issue.

Most human beings will display these traits at times in their lives especially during times of stress but Adult Victims (banana people) show these traits repeatedly for years and years and they only get worse with time, not better.

Some form of childhood sexual abuse by a another human being who was wrongly told they were sexually attracted to children is often in the original family unit - either directly to the adult victim/banana person or caregiver - has happened  to produce an adult victim/banana person.

Fear of exposure that they will be exposed as the 'fake person' they feel like is what keeps Adult Victims stuck in this cycle and they are often unaware their outward behavior to other people usually indicates something is wrong anyway.  

Banana people are part of the motivation for identifying new human sexualities' and creating The Red Zone (see below) after learning what one can't talk about, one can't move through.  New human sexualities means adult victims will stop being produced and the Red Zone creation now provides the words banana people need to talk.  These things combined  means the world will stop producing Adult Victims/banana people. 

Being an Adult Victim is not a choice but choosing not to recover from being a banana person is.  If you are a banana person the best advice is to start attempting to talk about yourself and your life honestly in detail with other people not about how or what 'people are doing to you.'  Because your illness is the idea someone somewhere wants to or will fuck you over, eventually so you better get them first.     

Generations of human beings have not been provided with the appropriate language to process sexual abuse trauma, created by medicine and religion.

It is dehumanizing for a victims of sexual abuse to use expressions like, he inserted three fingers into my vagina, put his penis in my anus or she inserted something into my penis.  Then have a lawyer say, the person inflicting the violation thought it was ok because the orifices' naturally lubricated themselves to stop damage to their body.  It is inhumane and absurd.  Medicine and religion really has a lot to answer for.  The public sexual humiliation inflicted on so many human beings via a court process, for nothing except money.  

This has left a large part of the current population with traits of being Adult Victims who are unable to recognize the vulnerability and natural dependency of children on adults and that vulnerable adults and creatures have on those in positions of power over them by having more life experience and/or a larger developed brain. 

The current system is still so full of shame and confusion about human sexuality it is even unable to identify that the human nervous system naturally includes the parts we have marked on the body in the side diagram as being Red Zones. 

Mouth, ass, chest, genital region.  Pretty simple.  Un-consensual touch in these zones, creates physical trauma on the brain, via the central nervous system which feeds back the messages of violation to the brain.

The mouth and nose are connected as science already proves and right now, the current COVID testing - shoving things up the nose - is creating trauma on human beings brains because the COVID response has come out of the same Medical System that wrongly told adults they were sexually attracted to animals and children, when the natural human senses were denied and are still being denied.